Words by Bec

We met on an app called Brenda, Alysha had been traveling for about three years and had moved to Brisbane to start afresh. 

I was very much into the dating app to make new queer friends, and as she was new to town, I invited her to come to a friend’s gig with a bunch of my friends. I remember talking to my friends prior to our meeting and letting them know I was only really feeling a friend vibe from our convos and that I thought she would mesh into our group as a fun new friend. 

Then I saw her face to face, and we connected on a much deeper level. 

Last year we moved from QLD to Melbourne with our pup Charli. 

On our first-year anniversary, I borrowed Alysha’s sister’s van, put a bed in the back, and arranged time off for Alysha. My plan was to wake her up early in the morning and have everything we needed packed and a road map in the back to symbolize a random road trip to wherever we were vibing. 

I couldn’t hold in my excitement, and in pure Bec style, actually told her the night before. Thankfully this didn’t ruin the fun, and we had such a beautiful trip. We drove to Mullumbimby, Byron, East Ballina, and everything in between – taking our time to stop and taste all the delicious food, skate, swim in the ocean, drink wine on the beach, be in nature and spend some quality one on one time. 

However, our relationship has now ended. 

We have gone through a breakup, but have managed to keep a friendship. Although this was a challenging time for us, it was necessary. We feel so grateful for the experiences we shared, the deep connection we built, and the support and trust we felt from each other. 

Before our breakup, we had to learn that we grew into friends and weren’t lovers anymore. Breaking up with each other and remaining in each other’s life is a beautiful thing. 

Charli, our fur baby (who was Bec’s dog at the beginning), now still has two moms, and we look after her together. 


Photography by Maria Bauer