We’ve been together for three years. We met in Memphis, Tennessee, where we both lived at the time, through a mutual friend. I had recently bought a new bike and after a few trips alone down the Shelby Farms Greenline, I invited Amie to tag along [hoping she’d be impressed with my biking skills]. We started biking more and more, sometimes for hours, all around Memphis. We went out for drinks a few times, always as friends, but I developed a crush. One night, I finally worked up the nerve to kiss her. She didn’t respond the way I had hoped at first, but my persistence paid off. She eventually invited me to lunch, and we were soon inseparable.
Amie tells me that I ruined several attempts at a proposal before she finally popped the question. On one attempt, she planned to take me on a walk to a pretty spot overlooking our home city of Birmingham right at sunset. Instead, I insisted that we walk to pick up our dogs from boarding [rather than quickly picking them up in the car on the way home]. Halfway through the trek, it started RAINING and Amie pulled any remaining plans she had of proposing.
Following several more attempts that I unwittingly thwarted, Amie finally proposed at home after a long, sweet Sunday together.
Our engagement was for nine months.
Amie went to law school in California and had spent time in Truckee. We both knew we wanted to elope for our wedding and do something outdoors. We looked at several locations, but when Amie finally showed me pictures of Truckee, we both fell in love with it. We decided on Donner Summit overlooking Donner Lake.
We didn’t have family helping us so we wanted to keep it simple and stress-free. We pulled it off with the help of some great friends.
We had a very simple wedding, so the entire wedding was basically a DIY that we could not have pulled off without our dear friends. We wrapped our bouquets with lace and family keepsakes from Amie’s sister and had friends help us with the set up of the reception.
The day before our wedding, our rental car broke down on the side of a busy highway in Truckee, California. We waited nearly two hours for a wrecker but eventually had to “abandon” the vehicle and get our friends to pick us up and take us to another rental location. We then had to drive about an hour away to pick up our marriage license application, making it just 30 minutes before the office closed!
On this same day, our good friend Grant – who we planned to have officiate the wedding – informed us that he had the flu and would not be able to perform our ceremony. Luckily, one of my best friends, Ben, stepped up to the plate and knocked it out of the park. He spent the rest of the day writing and preparing for the ceremony. It was absolutely perfect and sweet.
Despite it all, the day went perfectly. We started the day with brunch and mimosas at our friend’s house. We then went back to the house we rented for us and all of our guests while in Truckee and got ready in different rooms while drinking champagne. My good friends, Jessica and Jocasta, helped me get ready, while Amie’s sister helped her. Amie left the house first and set out for Donner Pass and I followed shortly thereafter. Neither of us had ever seen it in person so we were a little nervous about how it would all work, but once we arrived it fell into place.
Amie’s sister and brother-in-law walked her up to the top of the Summit, and once she was settled, I walked up to find her. We had an intimate first look at the top of the Summit while all of our guests waited down below. Everyone then made the trek to the top of the Summit and after a few photos of the scenery, Amie proclaimed, “Well, should we get married now?” It was very windy at the Summit, which somehow made the whole thing more magical, and Ben performed a beautiful ceremony while I choked back tears (Amie is not a crier). We couldn’t have asked for a better day.
We steered clear of family or religious traditions for our day. We wanted to make the whole thing unique as to us. The only things we incorporated was “Something new, something old, something borrowed, something blue.” Amie’s sister had handkerchiefs made with our initials embroidered in blue (something new and blue) and we both wrapped our bouquets in lace from Amie’s sister’s wedding (something borrowed). I wore earrings from my grandmother, and Amie attached her grandmother’s brooches to her bouquet (something old).
About a year after we began dating, I started telling Amie, “I would marry you yesterday.” We were serious about each other, but I liked the idea of having a union that can’t be broken. We’ll have good days and bad days, but at the end of the day, we get to come home to each other and that feels good.
Photographer Emily Lester Photography | Cake Happy Tiers Bakery | Catering T’s Mesquite Rotisserie | Ceremony Venue McGlashan Point, Truckee | Celebrant Ben Morton | Coordination & Planning Jocasta & Claire | H& MU Jessica & Lillie | Rings Chincharmaloney, Levy’s Fine Jewelry | Reception Venue Alibi Ale Works at Incline Village | Gowns BHLDN