With unaccepting family members, Cassidy and Chelsea decided that an intimate wedding with just 30 guests would suit them and their wedding vision perfectly.
Words by Chelsea
We met years ago and always knew of one another, but life took us in very different directions. We reconnected two years ago when Chelsea slid into Cassidy’s Instagram DMs, and the rest is history! Chelsea is a shoe dog selling footwear to national accounts for Asics while Cassidy works as a pediatric heart transplant coordinator. You can find us at a local brewery with friends and a seasonal beer in hand on Friday nights.
I had concocted the perfect date night for our anniversary, that we had to rearrange quickly due to a family loss. Cassidy drove home from a funeral on Sunday morning with me questioning every mile, “Are you home yet?”
Once Cassidy got home, we got ready and went to a random movie and had dinner at our favorite local spot. After dinner, I insisted that we had to return home to let the dogs out before continuing our evening. Cassidy saw this as an opportunity to call it a night, but when we got to the house, our bedroom was covered in flowers and candles. The ring was placed on a bible that has Cassidy’s new name inscribed onto the cover.
Little did Cassidy know that the reason we still had to go out after the proposal was because our friends were all gathered to celebrate with us! After celebrating with friends, we reminisced on a spectacular night while playing a competitive game of phase 10. It was a perfect evening!
Wedding planning was stressful for you, why?
Our journey leading up to engagement and wedding was that of stress. Cassidy’s family was not supportive of the relationship or the marriage, placing a lot of added anxiety to an already stressful time. We banded together and knew that this mountain was one that we could only conquer as a team.
Upon arriving at the chapel, we noticed the beautiful arched door that we wanted to act as a backdrop was gone. Cassidy began to panic but figured that it was just removed for maintenance. We found the groundskeeper who informed us that due to a very wet Texas spring, the door was removed and sent off-site for repairs, the door would not be returned until July. Our wedding was in June, so this is when the panic set in, and tears were shed. Luckily, we have an extremely talented friend that built a door in four hours to serve as the perfect backdrop for our day.
You both wore dresses to your wedding, what was the wedding dress experience like for you both?
We both knew we wanted to keep our dresses a surprise for one another. We enlisted the help of our friends to assist in finding the perfect dress. I took my two best friends seven days after the proposal to find a dress. I knew I wanted something relaxed and more boho in feel, but every dress I tried to fit this motif was a flop. Mel, my friend, picked out a white ballgown that she stated she “just wanted to see on.” Reluctantly, I tried it on and immediately welled up in tears. It was not at all what I thought I had wanted, but everything I could have imagined!
Chelsea was less enthusiastic about her dress experience, so she took her best friend to try-on options. Her friends knew she found “the one” when she walked out of the fitting room to sighs and smiles. Chelsea knew it was perfect for her when she realized it had pockets!
Tell us about your wedding day.
Our favorite memory happened at the reception. In aligning with our competitive nature, we had several games throughout the night instead of traditional wedding events.
One game, in particular, was from college; therefore, we felt it might fall flat; however, it was the night’s hit. Seeing everyone participate and enjoying themselves was a beautiful memory.
According to Cassidy, the one “slight” hiccup, while quite monumental to Chelsea, is the switching of sides during the ceremony. Chelsea had made multiple diagrams that she was on the right side while Cassidy was on the left. However, while both of us were in the bridal suites, our sweet friends sat and debated where everyone was to sit and switched the side, unbeknownst to us. Cassidy walked down the aisle first and went with it. However, Chelsea immediately noticed and was quite perplexed to which our officiant whispered: “go with the flow.” After the wedding, the first picture tells the full story as Chelsea is asking why the switch. We aren’t sure if she will ever get over this conundrum.
We had a string quartet for the ceremony that played “Can’t Help Falling in Love” for the two of us to walk down and “I’ll Be There for You” (Friends theme song) for the recessional.
You incorporated some Methodist religious traditions, what were they?
We both come from Methodist backgrounds. Since we had one of our good friends ordained to perform the ceremony, it was up to us to formulate the plan. While this sounds quite daunting, we had a lot of fun researching different denominations and spiritual incorporations! We came up with the religious pieces while Stacey, our officiant, added personal touches to make for a perfect personalized moment.
Chelsea’s aunt made us both garters to wear at the wedding, decorated with charms that had been passed down from the 1800s and included delicate blue details.
Is there anything else you’d like to share with us?
As with any wedding, some somethings don’t go according to plan. Our friends are our family; however, Cassidy’s immediate family’s lack of support was disappointing. We did our best to stay the course and control the controllable while God handled the rest. While we hope others have the guidance and backing of their family, for those who do not remember that the love the two of you share is the focus of the day. You determine who is sharing and celebrating this day with you and reserve the right to include or exclude whomever you choose.
Lastly, what does marriage mean to you?
For Chelsea, I think it means always having a Sous Chef and kitchen cleaner for her incredible cooking! We both are keen on the fact that we still have a date for events and don’t have to activate and “swipe.”
Marriage is a union that supports being your authentic self with one another through silly moments, celebrations, and trying days. You get to have a forever roomie that will always be there to support and love you through the hardest of days.
Photographer Heather Wise Photography
Bridal Pajamas Plum Pretty Sugar
Cake Holly Fields
Ceremony Venue Chapel Dulcinea
Celebrant Stacey Steinbach
Decorative Elements Premier Event
Entertainment Sienna Strings
Engagement & Wedding Rings Pailet Diamond Company
Florist Wild Bunches Floral
Gown Designer Stassi Holford, David’s Bridal
H&MU Hint of Shimmer