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You can read all about Chantal and Sam’s engagement story here too.

We had been searching for the right place for a couple of months. As we knew we didn’t want a fancy ballroom or anything like that so, we were thinking maybe a backyard tent wedding. We ended up finding the best of both worlds, a greenhouse fifteen minutes from our hometown that we had NEVER seen before. It had trees, plants, a cobblestone floor, string lights, and was absolutely perfect.

It was December, and we tried to book an appointment to see it as we had only seen a few photos. When we contacted them, they told us that they were in BC for the next few weeks and only had ONE Saturday left in 2018. We drove over, wiped the snow off a window, peeked inside, called them five minutes later, and booked it on the spot without even stepping a foot inside. We just knew it was “the one”!

Our wedding day was the funnest day ever.
Those were the exact words I said on the dancefloor with my friends at the end of the night. Our wedding was more perfect than I could ever have imagined.

The night before, we rented a house on the lake in our hometown. We had some friends over the night before and kicked them out around 10 pm so that we could try and get a good night’s sleep. Everyone told us, ‘you’re not going to be able to sleep’! I legit fell asleep in three minutes.

We woke up at 5 am and went downstairs. Chantal made us coffee and took twenty minutes to write our vows in these cute little vow books we bought. Then we took our coffee to the dock and just cuddled until our friends started to arrive about half an hour later. We really wanted that time together to start our day off properly.

Then we separated. I left with my girls about an hour earlier than Chantal to the salon to start getting ready, and the girls kept us separate when we were both at the salon at the same time. It was exciting because I could hear her but couldn’t see her, which was fun! I went back to the house, and my cousin did my hair.

Once hair and makeup were done, I just sat outside on the deck, and I was scary calm, all-day, so calm. Everyone said Chantal was the same.
So I couldn’t see her, my maid of honor and I sat in the bathroom while they snuck her out. I could hear all of the girls in the hall crying when she came downstairs, and then all the emotions hit me. Sneaking upstairs with my Mom, I put my dress on, had my bridal party come up, had a quick cry, then a touch-up, then got ready for our first look.

I was looking forward to our first look because that was the only thing making me nervous. I just wanted to be with and around her. Our first look was magical. Chantal looked like an actual angel. I could cry just thinking about it. We had a sweet moment. It was outside, by the water and barefoot. Something about being barefoot with the grass between my toes has made that moment so etched in my brain. As I write this, I realize that I can feel a moment again, so vividly!

Then we yelled for our bridal party, who piled out of the house, another amazing moment. We took some photos, had a drink or two, and then got onto our school bus. Yes, we got a school bus! After looking at all of the costs, a $2000 limo just didn’t seem necessary. The bus took us to the old main street in Newmarket to a cute little place with a pub. We went in with our bridal party for a drink, some photos and to kill some time together.

When we got to the venue, it was already perfectly set up. Chantal had two of her work friends, Sadaf and Sahel, set it up for us. They made our whole vision come to life. They were actual lifesavers all day. I guess we did have day-of-coordinators. I would suggest everyone has a day of person who looks after those tiny details at the very least.

Our ceremony came so fast, I feel like I blacked out from arriving at the venue, and all of a sudden, I was standing in front of Chantal saying my vows. I am usually the calm, cool, and collected one trying to bring down Chantal’s stress. But this day was the total opposite.

I wasn’t nervous just very emotional. Feeling like every single person’s energy was radiating onto me, and I was shaking. I don’t know how it’s possible but, at that moment, I fell even more in love with her. I suddenly felt like I was in a snowglobe, every single person disappeared, and it was just me, her and our vows to each other.

Dinner was great even though I didn’t eat more than a bite. The speeches were incredible, so much so I cried another forty-two times. We danced with our dads, which were some extraordinary moments that we will carry with us always. Our first dance was to Ellie Golding – How Long Will I Love You, and Chantal just made me laugh the whole time because she was singing in my ear.

Everyone hopped on the dancefloor, and we danced all night long. I don’t think I left the dancefloor at all. We had organized our late-night snack to be tacos, but I couldn’t even tell you if they came out or not. We had the great idea to Uber Eats on hundred McDonalds cheeseburgers to the venue at 11 pm. I just remember dancing with a big bag of cheeseburgers, handing them out on the dance floor. The best idea we ever had, aside from marrying one another!

We ended the night with emo songs from our high school days with our high school friends. I can still remember the last hour like it was yesterday. 90’s emo bands, my best of friends, singing on the dancefloor like we were at a concert! And, that’s when I screamed, ‘THIS IS THE FUNNEST DAY EVERRRR.’

We wanted a whimsical, simple, and romantic wedding. A room filled with candles and the people we love the most. I can honestly say it was the most magical, beautiful, fantastic day of my life. The amount of love in the air had me vibrating all day.


Photography by Bows & Lavender

Bridesmaids’ Outfits David’s Bridal
Cake Artsy Baker
Catering O’Malley’s Catering
Ceremony & Reception Venue Madsen’s Greenhouse
DJ Rick Watson
Florals Room to Bloom
H&MU Jen Magee, Sarah J, Victoria Bourque Boutique
Officiant Jeff McQueen
Rings James Allen
Wedding Dress White One 

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