Chelsea and Courtney are a couple that both swiped right but then didn’t connect until they both matched on another dating site a little while later. While some might see it as a coincidence, Chelsea and Courtney know, it just meant that the timing was perfect – it was meant to be. They share their engagement story with us.
DWH: Who are you both? Individually and as a couple.
Courtney: I grew up in a really small town in CT. I have two older brothers, and my Mum is my absolute best friend and hero. I’d say I’m a very deep and thoughtful person. I’m very emotional which sometimes is good and sometimes is bad. I look gruff and rough and unfriendly on the outside, but I’m the complete opposite of that. I love people and learning about people’s lives and struggles and journeys. I always try to show love and acceptance to anyone and everyone.
Chelsea: I, like Courtney, grew up in a small town in CT. I am a very outgoing and fun loving person. Humour is what I believe to be my best quality and I try to incorporate it into my ‘go with the flow’ mantra. I enjoy spending time with our friends and family, they all hold a special place in my heart, and I would do anything for those I love. Though carefree and easygoing, I have a strong type A personality. I am a planner and love hosting and organising events and vacations.
C & C: As a couple, we are a very energetic and we always try to find new and exciting memories we can make together. We kind of U-Hauled and moved in together after only about two months of knowing each other (it’s a running joke that we had to explain ‘U-Hauling’ to so many people, so we rented a U-Haul for our engagement pictures). We’ve been together for almost three years now. In that time, we’ve each had opportunities to support the other through some difficulties, and it has only ever made our relationship stronger. When we’re alone, we are much more silly than people probably imagine. We enjoy spending time by the water, and our favourite vacation spot is Narragansett, RI. We truly bring out the best in one another and balance each other perfectly.
DWH: Tell us, how did you meet?
C & C: We first ‘matched’ on Tinder, neither one of us decided to make a move until we found each other OK Cupid. Courtney was the first one to initiate the conversation with a very witty “We’ve matched on two dating sites, I think it’s about time I introduce myself.” Looking back, that initial conversation HURTS. We were both so awkward in our exchanges. The funny thing is that we grew up two towns away, have several mutual friends and were both active in the same community theatres. We always say our paths should have crossed a million times, but we met right at the moment we were supposed to. We’re still waiting to find that one picture where one us is photobombing the other in the background.
DWH: Tell us a little about your love story, what is your favourite thing about one another, how did you know she was the one?
Chelsea: Court and I met at a point in our lives where we both weren’t looking for a relationship. We both were still figuring out who we were and were honestly just trying to meet people in the local gay community. I guess that is the beauty of our relationship; it happened so effortlessly and naturally. We are complete opposites but so much the same. Courtney completes me as a person; she is everything I never knew was ‘missing’. She has taught me things about myself and has helped me to become a better person. I have never felt so at home in someone’s presence. I knew Courtney was the one for me when we were on our second date, a little premature I know. We had met for dinner (I was about an hour and 1/2 late getting off work) and Court for whatever reason hung around for me. We ended up grabbing a few more drinks and ultimately closed the place at 3 am. Sitting at the bar, laughing, talking, taking her in, I felt that feeling of ‘home’.
Courtney: I always say Chels made me believe in love again when I had pretty much given up hope of it happening for me. I was at an extreme low in my life when I met her, and I still wonder why she stuck around… but man, I am so grateful every single day that she did. I think our story is a testament to how being loved truly and in the way you were meant to be loved can heal almost any wound. The first time we met, it felt like a million pounds had been lifted off my shoulders (even though I was a hot mess of nerves on our first date). There was something about her that was so vibrant and had me hooked immediately.
I also knew she was the one on our second date. Being close to her, laughing with her, holding her hand, it all felt so natural. It felt like I was holding the hand of someone that I’d known my whole life and not so much like I was meeting and getting to know someone new.
Chels has so much light and fun to her. She constantly makes me laugh but can also ground me or bring me back to reality when my anxiety gets the best of me. She really is my everything.
DWH: We want all the details on the proposal! How did it all happen?
Courtney: August 5th, 2017 was the day that I proposed to Chelsea. The night before, we spent the evening with Chelsea’s brother (KJ) and sister in law (Bre) who were almost as excited as I was about what was going to happen the next day. However, the weather looked ominous: “A strong thunderstorm; storms may bring downpours, damaging winds and even an isolated tornado.” I may have laughed with Bre a little while I silently freaked out on the inside. I also sent my Mom a text in a panic with a big “WTF.”
The next morning, I woke up at 4 am pretty much climbing out of my skin. Luckily, I made it through the day (shout out to KJ and Bre) without showing Chelsea any signs of what was to come even with the hiccups we faced with Chelsea being such a planner. Fun fact about my girl: Chelsea is the HARDEST PERSON TO SURPRISE. I had made it four months with a ring hidden right under her nose… I couldn’t blow it at the last minute. I had to follow my plan.
Being near the ocean and on the water has always meant the world to her, but it wasn’t until I met her that I fell in love with the ocean too. I was able to see it in a completely different way with her, and I see her transform into this little girl again when she’s around it. I was sure it had to be near the water. Plus, boats have some significance in our relationship.
Up until this point everything was working out perfectly. Even the weather turned out to be beautiful. So there we were at Mystic Seaport amongst some of the oldest, most wonderful boats in the world. The ocean right there with the breeze on our faces, it was perfect. EXCEPT, the one detail I didn’t see coming was the fact that you had to pay to go walk around the docks (The website was misleading). As Chelsea refused to let me pay to go in because they were closing in an hour and there were only “like five boats in there” I had a small panic attack. I even asked if we could walk around and see if we could hop the fence somewhere. Chelsea started to get upset. I started to realise, my plan wasn’t going to work.
So we drove a little while until Chelsea said, “Let’s go down by The Engine Room. There’s a bunch of shops and places to see down there.” The Engine Room is a restaurant in downtown Mystic, CT that we had gone to once for brunch. And across the street, there were docks.
Long story short, we walked onto the docks while I pulled her past the “No Trespassing” signs. I got her attention, told her I had something to ask her and she may or may not have cussed thinking I was joking. But when she saw I actually had a ring and was getting down on one knee, she immediately began crying hysterically. So, as she cried and kept asking if I was serious, I asked Chelsea to marry me. Through her tears and COMPLETE disbelief, she said yes!
DWH: How is wedding planning going for you both? What have been the challenges, or things that are easier than expected?
C & C: Wedding planning has been surprisingly easy for us! Yes, it’s stressful at times and we find ourselves wondering, why does everything cost three times as much when you mention ‘wedding’, but with that aside, it’s been a really fun experience. We both knew where we wanted to get married and once we saw the space for the first time our minds flooded with inspiration. We are both very creative and enjoy DIY projects so our wedding is a complete compilation of that. Courtney does graphic design and woodworking and Chelsea loves event planning and design, we really make a great team creatively. Plus, our styles are really similar. The biggest challenge has been verbalising our visions or trying to explain how we are envisioning specific elements. In the end, 9/10 times we are both visualising the same thing, but explaining them differently. That’s really been the main cause of any disagreements we’ve had and we are bound to be laughing about it in 20 minutes. It has been a fun process to see how each of our minds work but even more fun when we see those visions come to life. Together we have created, crafted and designed elements that we know will make our special day that much more personal.
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