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Chyla & Roxanne’s Sunset Vows and Birthday Proposals

Chyla & Roxanne’s Sunset Vows and Birthday Proposals

A romantic lesbian elopement in the desert of Joshua Tree, USA

How long have you been together, and how did you meet?

We’ve been together for three and a half years.

In April of 2020, we both swiped right on Bumble (right when the apocalypse was beginning). We “dated” on Zoom for a whole month because we wanted to be safe, and no one knew what the f**k was going on in the world. A couple of months later, we finally started having some socially distanced adventure meetups- and we’ve been inseparable ever since!

Aside from your wedding, what is your favorite memory together?

This is very hard to narrow down…

But our FIRST favorite memory was when we finally met in person. We visited Huntington Beach to see the bioluminescent (basically glowing) waves. It was so nice to finally get to see each other off Zoom and in the flesh! We sat a few feet apart, shared craft beer from paper cups, and talked for hours– it was so romantic!

Tell us about the proposal.

We’re both control freaks, so we decided to set a three-month deadline for us to each have our own proposal moment.

Since our birthdays are only two days apart, we celebrated with a trip to Palm Springs. Roxi surprised Chyla first by popping the question on Chyla’s birthday, mid-hike in Indian Canyon. Palm trees surrounded us in our own little world. It was perfect.

Two days later, on Roxi’s birthday back in Los Angeles, Chyla proposed to Roxi at our home. Both of us were proposed to on our birthdays!

Talk us through the decision to elope.

We both love a good spreadsheet, so we discussed different wedding scenarios and realized that an intimate celebration would allow us to avoid the stresses of big, elaborate weddings. We decided to have our small wedding now and a bigger anniversary party in a few years where we can invite all of our loved ones.

Tell us about telling your loved ones that you’re now married.

We started off by telling people in person, and everyone was incredibly supportive. We later sent out a mass email with a formal announcement. We’ve been so grateful for the outpouring of love from everyone.

Talk us through the actual elopement.

There were some stressful moments in the month leading up to the wedding due to the threat of a government shutdown. There was a strong chance that Joshua Tree National Park (our wedding site) would not be open, so we had to scramble to come up with a backup plan.

Thankfully, the government got it together just in time, and we could move forward as planned.

We rented a beautiful house in Twentynine Palms to be the home base for us, our parents, and our four best friends. Every person there played a part in the prepping and planning. Chyla’s best friend Tayah is a master florist who created the most gorgeous arrangements throughout the three-day event. Roxi’s childhood best friend, Alexis, was our officiant and personalized our ceremony in such a special way. Our other two friends, Jessica and Esther, used their boss lady planning skills to keep everything running smoothly. Our lovely parents contributed in countless ways, from cooking delicious meals to taking care of the more significant wedding expenses. Our two little dogs, Herman Wigglebottoms and Scrappy Doo, were our guests of honor and ring bearers, donning adorable tuxedos for their special roles.

We got married at Cap Rock right before sunset. We chose to walk toward each other and meet in the middle, which we felt was a beautiful metaphor for our relationship. Lots of laughs and tears were had while we shared our own personal vows.

After the ceremony, our guests went ahead to our reception location. We stayed back for an epic photoshoot with Ruth Marie.

What does the future hold for you both?

We are excited to share a life full of adventure, travel and play. We are very passionate about building something for our communities– we’re currently trying to figure out what that means to us and looking forward to figuring it out together.


Photographer Ruth Marie Photography

Caterer Kitchen In The Desert
Ceremony Venue Joshua Tree National Park
Dress Boutique Anthropologie Weddings & Anita’s Bridal Boutique
Dress Designer Rish, Morilee
Engagement Rings Alexis Russell & Bario Neal
Florist Origin Elsewhere Designs
Makeup  Nancy Andrade

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