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A Styled Shoot Inspired by Netflix’s Wednesday

A Styled Shoot Inspired by Netflix’s Wednesday

A dark, moody and gothic lesbian styled wedding in the USA

As a huge fan of the Netflix series Wednesday, the owner of a specialty rental company was inspired to create a styled shoot with a real married couple stepping into the shoes of Wednesday and her bestie/roomie Enid. Anita Riggleman (she/her), owner of Valley Heirlooms, loved the show and created a story that takes place ten years after Wednesday and Enid meet at Nevermore Academy. In the show, there is no love lost between the two characters in the beginning, but their relationship is one of the strongest by the last episode. Flash forward a decade, and Wednesday and Enid become closer than ever and declare their love for one another.

In real life, the models and lovers, Colleen Kivley (she/her), wearing a dark navy blue dress, and Erin Murray (she/her), wearing a white dress, were married in 2015 at a local park surrounded by family and friends.

Their friend Amanda, owner of Sparrow’s Flowers, provided flowers for their real marriage and the Wednesday-Enid-styled shoot.

The desire for the styled shoot was to bring together the perfect mix of vendors to represent both brides. Still clad in all-black attire, Wednesday has a killer dress that includes understated sparkle and feathers at the shoulder to represent her as a raven. Wednesday, with her signature bangs and braids, has raven skulls added to her hair and her jewelry is simple yet bold. Enid, who retains her pastel rainbow hair and claws, wears a pastel pink sequin dress with a playful tulle skirt. Enid also has colorful sequins around her eyes, a sparkly pink butterfly necklace, and adds a pink fur wrap during their departure from the snowy venue.

Melrose Caverns was chosen for its historical heritage, gorgeous old wood floors, stone building and fireplaces, and the cave where we hope no hydes are lurking. Everything from the flowers and place settings to the cake and stationery combined elements of both Wednesday and Enid. Even the guest favors, miniature terrariums including dried flowers, moss, bees and animal bones, were selected to reflect both brides.

The round ceremony backdrop was an interpretation of the window from the girl’s dorm room in Ophelia Hall, where they first met. Fun props included a vintage Underwood typewriter for Wednesday to type up her vows and a rattan peacock chair borrowed from Morticia for some photos of the newlyweds.


How did you meet?

Colleen and I met in New Hampshire in 2007, when I was in graduate school and she was an undergrad at the University of New Hampshire. We started dating in 2008 and moved in together in our first apartment in 2009. As our relationship developed over the following years, we moved from New Hampshire to Maryland and then to Virginia. We had the unusual experience of having gay marriage legalized in each state when we lived there. New Hampshire in 2010, Maryland in 2013, and finally in Virginia in 2014. When Virginia legalized gay marriage in October 2014, we both knew we wanted to get married! We secretly bought each other a ring, and long story short, we proposed to each other in December 2014 at Christmas time. We got married in June 2015 at a local park, surrounded by family and friends. We walked down the aisle, hand in hand, to Johnny Cash’s “I Walk the Line.” We have been very happily married for almost eight years.

What is your favorite memory together?

One of our favorite activities to do together is to travel. We also have a proclivity for getting lost and running into odd situations when we are traveling, which always makes for good memories and stories! When we were on our honeymoon, we were trying to travel from Lille, France, to Dover, England, and couldn’t find the bus stop after getting off the train in Calais. We ended up running as fast as we could, all the way through town, to catch the ferry (which we already had purchased tickets for) to Dover. We made it to the ferry and breathed a sigh of relief! Once in Dover, though, we got lost again looking for our Airbnb! 

What has been the biggest challenge you’ve had to overcome together?

The first apartment we had together after graduation was a studio apartment in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. After about a week of living at our new place together, we learned that there was a secret/hidden nightclub right behind our apartment. We would hear loud thumping of the club music multiple nights a week until 3 or 4 in the morning. Colleen would sit in the shower, trying to drown out the sound of the music with the running water. We occasionally remind ourselves that if we can get through a year of sleep deprivation and inhumane secret nightclub music torture, we can get through anything.

If you could give your younger selves a pep talk for the future, what would you say?

Colleen- It’s okay if it doesn’t seem like there is a clear path. All of your experiences are valuable and provide the opportunity to learn and grow. You’ll get there. (Paying for your Master’s Degree was worth it!)

Erin- Value your time and education. The most important thing is persistence, so don’t worry about being perfect or having the right answer. There’s no such thing.

Tell us your favorite thing about one another.

Colleen- My favorite thing about Erin is that she’s always up for an adventure and willing to try new things.

Erin- My favorite thing about Colleen is her natural state of genuine happiness. I don’t know anyone like her. She has the best laugh and easily finds ways to pursue her own happiness and pleasure. She makes me laugh and has really helped me to learn how to enjoy life more!

Photographer Hand Hewn Living

Cake Caked Up C’ville
Dress Boutique Amanda’s Touch
Engagement Rings Got Rocks Jewelry
Faux Fur Sissily Designs
Favors Belladonna Baubles & Curiosities
Florist Sparrow’s Flowers
Hair Stylist Slay With M.Rae
Make Up Artist Beauty With Lexa
Specialty Rentals Valley Heirlooms
Stationery Rachel Lettering
Venue Melrose Caverns
Videographer Scott Woofter Films

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