For some, it’s love at first sight. From the moment Danielle and Sandra met it was intense, and they both knew that the relationship between them was something very special.

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Elopement

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Elopement

After a year and a half of dating, Danielle showed up to Sandra’s home, handed her a list of items she needed to pack and whisked her away to a surprise cruise for the weekend. On the morning of the second day, they disembarked the ship to tour wineries in the area. Unbeknown to Sandra, Danielle had planned for a helper on the ship to decorate the room with lines of photographs of their relationship.

The moment they walked into the room everything Danielle had planned to say left her. Overcome with emotion she began to cry, got down on one knee and asked Sandra to spend the rest of her life with her. They cried and Sandra, of course, said yes!

Danielle and Sandra started to plan a big wedding but realised it just wasn’t them. What they craved was an intimate ceremony with just a few people, one where they could focus on just one another.

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Wedding Magazine

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Wedding Magazine

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Wedding Magazine

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Wedding Magazine

Dancing With Her - Lesbian Wedding Magazine

After seeing the Santa Barbara Courthouse online, they knew they had to go and see it in person. The old Spanish architecture captured their hearts and they started to plan their perfect elopement.

Planning their elopement was easy. They chose an officiant, picked a florist, found a cake shop and a restaurant to act as a reception – all within walking distance of the courthouse!

Sandra fell in love with the very first dress she tried on, and shoes and accessories came together over the months following.

For Danielle, an outfit didn’t come so easily. Danielle prefers to wear menswear but her tiny frame meant that for the perfect outfit could only come together with expensive tailors.

The wedding day could not have been more perfect. Danielle and Sandra’s children were well behaved and couldn’t have looked more adorable. A few family members showed up to surprise the couple and everything went to plan (although they both cried a lot more than they had anticipated). At the end of their ceremony, they stomped on glass to commemorate Danielle’s Jewish heritage and incorporated a poem in Spanish, Sandra’s first language.

LGBT Wedding Magazine and Blog - Dancing With Her

LGBT Wedding Magazine and Blog - Dancing With Her

LGBT Wedding Magazine and Blog - Dancing With Her

Together their favourite moment was reading each other their personalised vows. “It was a raw, beautiful moment being able to speak so honestly about what we mean to one another”.

Marriage to Danielle and Sandra means someone to share everything with, the exciting parts and they not so fun stuff. It’s someone who will kiss your with unbrushed teeth and messy hair. It’s you’re biggest cheerleader and sometimes the only critic you need to keep you in line. “It’s someone you cannot imagine your life without because they make you better, stronger and more ‘you’ than you’ve ever been before”.


Photography by Christine Skari


Ceremony Venue Santa Barbara Courthouse | Reception Venue Jane Restaurant | Cake Crushcakes | Cake Topper Victor the Florist | Celebrant Jeanie Weber | Rings Mark Schneider Design | Bridal Gown David’s Bridal | Suit Pants Nordstrom | Suspenders H & M | Shoes Mooshoes, Steve Madden | Socks Etsy | Hair Piece Etsy | Flower Girl Outfit H & M | Page Boy Outfit H & M