We see quite a few wedding pass over our inboxes, and we find a common thread in almost every single one – there was some aspect of do it yourself, or DIY, incorporated into the wedding day.

But, while it might save you a penny here and there, be warned, there will probably tears, and it probably won’t all go to plan.

Here’s our list of things you should consider before you try to do it all.

1. Be realistic.

This is probably the most valuable piece of advice we could offer. You might think you’ve got 12 months up your sleeve to get it all ready, so that means you’ll be able to do most of it yourself, right?

The truth is, probably not.

Be realistic about what you can achieve and what you’ll need help with! Sometimes it’s easier (and cheaper) to hire the professional.

2. You’re about to become a project manager.

I know it might sound a little over the top, but unless you’re doing all your DIY tasks yourself, you’re going to need to coordinate what everyone is doing and what your vision is.

You’ll probably have a group of wonderful friends and family who are willing to help you, but that group of people need to know that they’re doing, what the timeframes are and how you want it all to come together.

3. Know when to walk away.

We mentioned DIY’ing a wedding day can be a high-stress situation, so, if you’re starting to feel a little overwhelmed, or you’re just not enjoying what you’re doing, walk away and come back to it all when you’re feeling a little brighter. That might mean that you go and take a shower to freshen up, or you plan a weekend getaway with your soon to be bride and vow to not talk about the stresses of wedding planning.

4. If it gets too much, it’s okay to outsource.

When you recognise that something is going to take too long, or it’s just a whole lot harder than you anticipated, it’s okay to step away and outsource it.

Just because you wanted to DIY it, doesn’t mean you have to.

5. Don’t plan to do anything on the day.

Your wedding day is a day to be totally consumed by your love and celebration of the commitment that you’re making. Don’t let it mean that you’re running around finishing off last minute projects, making sure that things are in exactly the right place or worrying about that place card you’ve just discovered is misspelled. If there are things that are unfinished get a friend or family member to help out instead.

Photography Smith + Archer