Hillary and Michele met at work. At the time they were both in relationships however Hillary found herself being magnetically drawn towards Michele. Their relationship started as a quick and deep friendship and grew into more after Hillary divorced a year later.
Their relationship has weathered all the highs and lows of life along with multiple rounds of bi-coastal commutes as they each pursue their individual careers as retail fashion executives. Although Hillary is currently based in Philadelphia and Michele in San Francisco they share a home in Palm Springs, California.
As the political climate in the US started to shift last year they saw the importance in choosing to marry and gathered their immediate family on Thanksgiving eve to their shared home. Their wedding day was casual, intimate and perfect. Hillary’s stepfather officiated the wedding while each of their Mothers stood by their side as they exchanged vows at sunset.
DWH: You planned a wedding while living afar, how was that?
M: I had only a few requests; that it be immediate family only, that I could wear white jeans and sandals and that all the guests should wear white to ensure the photos were timeless.
H: I handled the rest from afar. Luckily I found the perfect photographer via an Instagram ‘rabbit hole’ one night and she connected me with all of the other wedding vendors. I think, most importantly, that I decided early on that while the details and aesthetics were very important, that I wouldn’t let the small stuff bother me.
DWH: Why did you choose to have a casual and intimate wedding day?
H: Michele wanted to elope. However, it was important to me to me that our Moms were present so that we could share our joy, and so that they could witness our deep commitment to each other. Elopement felt too anonymous to me. My Step-Father officiated which helped create a stronger sense of intimacy. In the end, we were both happy that we decided to share the day with our families.
DWH: It sounds like it was the perfect choice for you. How was the lead up to the day?
H: Getting married was definitely more important to me that to Michele. I felt vulnerable as a long-term couple living apart. What would happen if one of us got ill? I also feel that marriage is a hard-won right and that it is important to exercise our rights.
M: As the wedding planning progressed I became more and more excited and ultimately was very emotional as we exchanged vows.
H: I felt very peaceful – as if things were finally coming full circle.
DWH: Aside from your wedding day, what is the most amazing moment you’ve shared together?
H: We have been together for the better part of 14 years. We did take a year-long break in 2009. I was living in Pittsburgh and Michele was living in New York City. After almost a year apart, we ran into one another in Soho. It was one of those ‘take-your-breath-away’ moments for both of us. As Michele said to me yesterday. “I knew in that moment that I would do anything to have you forever”.