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It’s always a tough situation… you’ve sent out your save the date cards, or your invitations, and something changes. Suddenly, you’ve got someone [or people] on your guest list that you want to uninvite from your wedding.

Maybe it was a family member who hasn’t always been supportive of your love, but you thought it would be the right thing to do, or it might be a friend that you’ve just had a falling out with and now you don’t feel that it’s as important for them to be a part of your intimate ceremony.

There’s no real way to go about it easily – taking back an invitation is awkward. Here are our tips to go through the rough waters with ease and clarity.

  • Think about it.

    Sometimes the stress of planning of a wedding can make your mind go sideways – before you make any decisions, sleep on it. Your wedding day is something that you don’t ‘do-over’, and this will be the only opportunity your favourite people will get to watch you exchange those vows and celebrate your love.Are you confident you won’t look back on it and wish they weren’t there after all?


  • Talk about it.

    Chat with your partner and to those closest to you. Let them know how it’s all making you feel, and ask for their opinion – what would they do if they were in your shoes? Sometimes this will help you figure out whether you’re over-reacting, or solidify that your feelings are valid.


  • Confront the elephant.

    As hard as it might be, you’ll need to reach out to the person [or people] that you’re thinking about uninviting. You might find that it was a misunderstanding, or that you really do feel like the relationship is worth salvaging. It’s best to do this face-to-face, however, a phone call can do if that’s not possible.


  • Be true to you.

    If having them at your wedding day still doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t. Never let go of knowing that your wedding day is just that, YOUR wedding day. It’s not theirs.Let them know what your decision is and stick to it. It’s okay to uninvite a wedding guest, for whatever reason your heart tells you.