Now Reading
Jen & Sky

Jen & Sky

Krista Hawryluk Photography lesbian two bride Canada Canadian gay elopement wedding Dancing With Her directory

We officially began dating on August 29th, 2016, so just over two years.
We started talking through the queer social app, “Her”. When we first met, Jen was competing in a horse show in the city Sky lived in (and Jen would be returning to for university). Sky spent the entire day in the sun watching a sport she knew nothing about to spend a few minutes with Jen, and needless to say, that made a great first impression!

We originally planned to get married in September 2019 – but after a few glasses of sangria on a summer night, we decided to skip the stress of a big, conventional wedding and elope! Inviting just our closest friends and family to share the day with us with two months’ notice, and somehow we pulled it off.

We wanted to get married on the lawn of a legislative building near our apartment and told everyone we would be. Barely two weeks before the wedding, we found out that they didn’t allow ceremonies, only wedding pictures. We were going to try and wing it, but the anxiety got to us. Deciding on a nearby park instead, as it was somewhere we walked through often, and it meant something to us. It was close by, picturesque, inexpensive, and even better – available on our date [it was a midweek wedding, which certainly helped!].

Jen tends to be indecisive and question everything, so Sky kept her grounded throughout the wedding planning process. We stuck to the mantra that simple was best. At the end of the day if we were married, everything had gone according to plan!

Wanting to keep the decor and extras to a minimum and center our day on our love, an intimate and sincere ceremony, and what truly mattered to us and made us unique as a couple – not the tiny details.

Listed below is our priorities and we stuck with them:

  • Pizza and sangria for dinner.
  • An outdoor ceremony with a small guest list.
  • Quirky and memorable transportation.
  • An intimate ceremony with personal vows.
  • Our photographer who did our engagement photos.
  • Low budget.
  • Doughnuts from our favorite local and queer-owned bakery.
  • Spending the morning at home, sipping homemade cocktails.

Jen ordered a gown from BHLDN that she’d been on eyeing their website for months!! The dress sold out twice before she could order it. Big thanks to a Facebook group member who gave her the heads up that they restocked it.

Sky ordered a few dresses until she found the one she fell in love with. At first, she thought she wanted her tattoos covered, but she chose something elegant and beautiful that put them on full display.

These outfits weren’t what we had planned to wear. Basically, until the day of, we had our bridal parties and families convinced (and ourselves, for a while) that Jen would wear a floral suit and Sky was going to wear a simple blue lace dress. Jen’s mom was really disappointed and wanted us to wear our dresses.

On the day, we did a big surprise reveal, in our bridal gowns. That definitely brought people to tears and maybe annoyed a few of them, just a little bit, for leading them along!

There are so many moments of the wedding day that we will forever cherish. Some big, like saying our vows to each other and feeling the rest of the world dissolve as we promised each other forever. And some smaller, like little girls getting excited about seeing us in our dresses at a local dessert shop. We both cherish the in-between moments, the laughter, the friendships made among our bridal parties, the tears, the love, the smiles, and the joy.

There were a few hiccups along the way, including wardrobe malfunctions, technical issues, and maybe the odd other things. But not anything huge that our resourceful troupe of friends and family couldn’t help us solve.

In the end, we wouldn’t have had our day any other way. It was a whirlwind but in the best way. It was simply dreamy.

Our advice to other couples planning a wedding: It’s so hard at times, especially as LGBTQ couples, to stick to what you want and not be over-run by everyone else’s expectations. But at the end of the day, it is your wedding and your marriage. So make it your own!

Obviously, you may have to make some sacrifices for specific reasons. Still, we think evaluating the most important aspects of you as a couple and sticking to that is key to keeping a level head in the planning process.

We loved our teeny, surprise wedding. So many married couples commented on how they wished they had thought to do that, or how their relatives swayed them into having a huge, expensive wedding when they really would have rather eloped. Do what feels right for you!


Photography by Krista Hawryluk Photography

Dress’s BHLDN, Amazon
Flowers SageFlorals MB
Rings Mocha Rings
Transportation Winnipeg Trolley Company
Venue Upper Fort Garry
Videographer 111films

©2020 DANCING WITH HER®. All Rights Reserved.

Dancing With Her is created on the beautiful land of the Bundjalung Nation. We acknowledge that we have benefited from the colonialism which dispossessed the Bundjalung People of their land and culture, and pay our respects to Bundjalung elders, past, present and emerging. We acknowledge sovereignty was never ceded. The land we live and work on is Aboriginal Land.

Scroll To Top