Cleo and I had been dating for approximately six months before I started dropping hints about the type of engagement ring I wanted. It’s no secret that I’m about as subtle as a sledgehammer.
It started out as something as simple as “Oh I love (insert name here)’s ring, I’d probably like something a little bit smaller though and maybe in white gold instead of yellow gold”, and eventually ended up with me tagging her in Instagram pictures of rings I loved.
Throughout the next two and a half years, whenever I would bring up the idea of marriage, Cleo would say “not yet, it’s illegal”. She was obviously jokingly referring to the fact that at the time, marriage equality was not a reality in our beautiful country of Australia and we talked about how we would wait until it became legal before we took that step in our relationship.
Despite this, at the end of 2016, I had engagement on my mind.
We were about to go on our first overseas holiday together and I was sure that she would propose when we were away. My hopes of this happening slowly faded away as Cleo adamantly continued to hold her ground on the fact that it was not yet legal, and I convinced myself that it was not going to happen and that I needed to stop getting my hopes up because I knew I would be disappointed if I returned home from that holiday without a ring. This made it all the more emotional and shocking when she did propose, only days after I had resigned myself to the fact that I would be waiting at least another year or so!
On the 7th of January, 2017, Cleo and I went to Burleigh Heads on the Gold Coast which is one of my favourite places in the world, and she asked me to marry her. I said yes (obviously), and that brings us to today. And, we have finally started locking in vendors for our big day!
Choosing our key vendors has been such a fun adventure, but throughout this process, we’ve certainly had our doubts and struggles. I’ve had vendors stop responding to my emails when they found out we are a same-sex couple. When we have attended wedding fairs and the like we have had to explain multiple times that we are both the brides, and neither of us are getting married first because we are marrying each other. So cringeworthy! Filling out enquiry forms on websites has been a nightmare at times because a lot of sites still have a section for the bride and a section for the groom… so what if there are two brides, or two grooms, or two people who don’t particularly identify as either?
We’ve found it helpful to look at the social media pages of the vendors we were interested in. Planning a wedding throughout the marriage equality debate in Australia was heartbreaking in some respects, but obviously, the outcome was exactly what we had hoped for, and it’s been wonderful to see so many people in the wedding industry showing their support for marriage equality through social media.
We love that there is so much love surrounding us and it’s so important to us that nobody should feel alone in their wedding planning journey, so finding those supportive and inclusive businesses has been a huge part of our process.
You can absolutely guarantee that everyone we have chosen to be there on our big day believes in LOVE.
Now the scary part really begins… paying for everything we’ve booked. Just kidding, the scary part is going to be trying on dresses, but we can’t wait!
Looking forward to sharing the next part of our journey with you,
Liv & Cleo x
Images captured by Daisy & The Duke
Cleo and Liv are an engaged couple who live in Brisbane, Australia. When they’re not at their day jobs you’ll find them cuddled up with their adorable pooch, Bambi [and one another]. Follow along on their wedding planning journey over on Instagram [which is cleverly titled] @twobridesarebetterthanone.