We’ve been together for 3 years.
I set eyes on Brenna for the first time 11 years ago. I had just come out as my authentic self, and was at my first ever LGBT+ club. I was with a group of friends, basking in the newness of the atmosphere when I spotted her from across the room.
I can still tell you what she was wearing that night; a black and white solid baseball tee, black jeans, converse, the classic lesbian Tegan and Sara mullet of that time…AND a girlfriend. I wouldn’t speak to her that night but I certainly mentioned to my friend several times how attractive I found her.
Flash forward to an entire year later, and I’ve just moved to a new city and I’m getting my hair cut downtown. In walks Brenna, and sits right in front of me for an appointment. I immediately recognize her, start swooning again, and I even mention to my hairdresser how attractive she was to me.
Two years then pass, and I’ve already ended two serious relationships and a series of dating in between. Circa 2010. I get a Facebook request from Brenna out of nowhere. I didn’t even know she knew I existed. Which is a whole other story as to how she did. Nonetheless, we became FB friends…of course right as I was entering a relationship with someone else. Not long after, she followed suit and we both spent the next 5 + years in serious relationships with other people. We reconnected as those relationships were coming to an end.
Our relationships were both very painful and difficult to get out of, and we found comfort in one another. We endured the most painful, evolutionary, and transitory year during that time, but we became inseparable. There are SO many additional details where our paths have aligned or synced in some shape or form. We’ve had this interconnectedness for years and years. Quantum entanglement I like to call it. The Universe brought us together undoubtedly, our paths were always meant to collide when the time was right.
Our wedding day honestly couldn’t have been more perfect! We woke up in the mountains to the most beautiful landscape. We went into Terlingua and got the best cup of coffee and breakfast burritos at Espresso Y Poco Mas- which is our absolute favorite place in Terlingua.
We went back to our Airbnb and spent the rest of the day lounging around and enjoying each other’s company and tossing the nervous feelings back and forth.
We got ready together, both of us doing a facial mask in between us each perfecting our vows forcing the other one not to come near.
Our photographer drove 9 hours and primitive camped with her husband just to capture our big day for us. Our photographer, Ashley Howland, and her husband came to our Airbnb an hour or so prior to leaving for the park and photographed us getting ready and recorded us individually saying our vows to one another. We all drove into the park, nervous we were going to be kicked out for not having a permit, and we got in for free! Not only that, but the overlook to Santa Elena Canyon was vacant and we were able to say our vows with the most exceptional background and with no one else around.
Brenna’s vows were my favorite memory of the day. I was so captivated by them. Every single line, every word, every emotion behind them was so genuinely heartfelt and gushing with love. They were passionate, unreserved, and organic.
I cried like I didn’t expect to, I laughed…hard.
She conjured up the most carefully constructed and perfect things to say and left me in awe of her sincerity and affection for me. In them she quoted our favorite movie; “I could die right now. I’m just…happy. I’ve never felt that before. I’m just exactly where I want to be.” I’ve never felt that more than right then, on that day, in that exact moment.
We chose to elope, just the two of us and we are so glad that we kept it intimate and isolated. We didn’t have to worry about anyone else but ourselves and what we wanted our experience to be. We didn’t have any set time frame, other than being in the park as the sun was setting for golden hour.
We focused on one another, and we had a lot of alone time before the ceremony which only magnified the emotions for both of us. We had a reception the week after we returned home, kept it very small with only our family and our closest friends. Maybe 20 people tops. We had good food, cake, and we celebrated with the people who matter most. It was perfect, and I would do it that way 100 times over.
Ceremony Venue Big Bend National Park, Santa Elena Canyon Overlook | Celebrant Ashley Howland | Rings Olive Avenue Jewelry, Alex Gray CoSM Shop | Florist The Flower Market on 7th Street- Fort Worth, TX | Photographer Ashley Howland Photography | Stationery Minted | Gown Designer David’s Bridal | Blazer Dillard’s | Brenna’s Tie Kissvian