Ebony and Solimar wanted to host a day where everyone felt comfortable – a laid-back family-orientated wedding day was a perfect choice for them.
How long have you been together, and how did you meet?
S- We have been together for about eight years. We met at a former employer; I was assigned to train Ebony on case management services at AID Atlanta. AID Atlanta is a non-profit organization that assists individuals who have contracted HIV/AIDS and secures social services- i.e., housing, medical care, utility assistance, counseling, food assistance, etc.
Tell us about the proposal.
S- Well, there were two proposals. The 1st was Ebony proposing to me. We were sitting in the car waiting to pick up our dog, Leo and we were hungry, so we ordered some food (during the height of COVID) and sat in the car waiting. She was nervous and told me she needed to talk to me, and I could tell something was happening. She went on to tell me how much she loved and wanted us to spend the rest of our lives together.
For my proposal to Ebony, I orchestrated going on a hike to the St Cloud waterfront with our son, our new puppy, and my mother. I spoke with my Mom to get the camera ready for when I would ask her. We walked to the lake, and I pulled her aside. Telling her how much I care and love her. And how grateful I am for her being in my life, and I asked her to marry me.
Did you undertake any DIY projects for the big day?
My Mom arranged the whole wedding. By arranged, I mean made, designed, and put together everything!
Talk to us about your experience finding the perfect outfits.
Ebony found her dress quickly; however, I had a lot of difficulties finding a women’s tuxedo that fit my body the way I wanted. So I went through many vendors until I found the right one. After that, I ordered about three suits until I went with a custom-made suit. My best friend, Ebony’s older brother, and Ebony’s friend helped me figure out a vision and create the outfit. It was much more complicated than people realize, but it all came together pretty well.
What are your favorite moments?
There were so many moments!
The first look and then off to see my Mom’s hard work at the venue.
The moment before we began our walk was really special too. We walked separately to the aisle, our people (my parents and Ebony’s brother) walked down together, and then Ebony and I held hands and walked down the aisle together.
Our officiant, Ebony’s baby brother’s girlfriend, was so great, and we were so surprised by all her words.
Ebony’s vows to our son were amazing, and Ebony said she loved my vows also.
I think most of all, though, our favorite moment was when our son sang us a song after the first dance.
What does marriage mean to you?
Marriage means that we commit to share our lives, be vulnerable, and build a future for our family. I was never a marriage person, first and foremost because of the legality of it. I always thought I would be married as a little girl, but I didn’t know how that would happen.
When we met, I never thought I would be married. Still, then I found myself realizing that Ebony was my person. She accepts me for who I am with all my quirks, and I accept her. We have a connection that seems to grow with time, and all those feelings, emotions, and faith are what defines marriage to us.
Dancing With Her Recommended Vendor
Photography by Tiny House Photos
Cake & Topper Valhalla Bakery
Catering Chimento’s Spaghetti House
Dress Designer & Veil David’s Bridal
Engagement & Wedding Rings James Allen
Entertainment Dj Whisper
Lapel Pin SpotOn Us
Makeup Angelica Chrysler Beauty
Ring Bearer Outfits Ralph Lauren
Shirt Banana Republic
Shoes Macys, The Office of Angela Scott
Suit Designer Sumissura
Tailor Kim’s Tailor & Alterations
Venue Castle Church
Wedding Party Outfits David’s Bridal, Leonardo 5th Avenue