A modern and contemporary wedding day in the heart of Melbourne. Kate and Maya share their journey, from finding love to newlywed.
Words by Kate.
HOW THEY MET
We met five years ago through a mutual friend, but have only been together for three years.
I remember talking to Maya in the kitchen and I could barely speak, I thought she was so beautiful. We both had other girlfriends at that stage, and when we met again two years later, that quickly changed.
We were off to London to have Christmas with Maya’s sisters followed by two weeks driving through the snowy Scottish Highlands. I decided about 4 months before we left that I was going to ask Maya to marry me while on the trip, I just didn’t know exactly when and where. We were sharing luggage (and travelling light) so I was constantly changing my hiding spot for the ring which, to be honest, was hard to keep track of. Then we had a magical day staying in a spa in Pitlochry, and I knew this was going to be the day – we were super relaxed after a few days driving through the dramatic and mystic snow-capped landscape and a full day at a luxe spa resort.
I decided to wait for Maya in our hotel room, while she showered and prepared for dinner. I waited for her in bed and placed the ring under the sheets, on her side of the bed. By this stage, I found it hard to wait in bed and started pacing.
When Maya got out of the shower she came to say hi before we went out for dinner and I quickly flicked the sheets up to reveal the ring and asked her to marry me. We both cried like babies and then promptly went out for a martini and steak.
It was the best day ever.
We were two women organising a wedding. We felt organised and honestly, we smashed it. We were going overseas if the [Australian Marriage Equality] vote didn’t pass so only had 3 months to plan the big event, and everything except having our outfits made went perfectly. In the end, we had our first dress fitting one week before the wedding and picked up our outfits the day before.
Rupert on Rupert was the only venue we looked at. We loved the style of the venue and when we met Mali for the first time, we put down our deposit right then and there.
THE WEDDING DAY
Our favourite memories are of the ceremony. We had 82 guests and walking into the venue and standing in front of all our family and friends saying our vows was particularly memorable and emotional.
Maya is Polish, and we incorporated the traditional Polish blessing into our wedding, just as all our guests sat down for dinner. It consisted of her parents welcoming us, the newlyweds, with salt, bread and two shot glasses – one filled with water, the other with vodka. Each of the newlyweds, that’s us, had to pick a glass and the one who picked the vodka is said to ‘rule the marriage’. I won that one!
Maya has mentioned that the day after we got engaged, when she was walking from one of the cafe’s in Pitlochry to our car, before we started our drive to the Isle of Skye, that it was then that she felt that from the day forward her life had expanded into ours. Together we had to support each other to not only grow into the best versions of ourselves but to also grow together in happiness and love.
For me, I’ve cancelled my gym membership.
Our advice to other couples is to have fun with it and choose a venue that is equipped for weddings and has done it all before. We wanted something elegant, charming and fun but didn’t want to stress about the planning – we wanted everything about our wedding, including the lead-up, to be fun and joyous. Rupert on Rupert was perfect, and I would recommend it in a heartbeat.