Planning a Mutual Proposal, Together
It’s a Tumblr love story; after meeting online eight years ago, it was time for Kailee and Tally to commit to their future together, officially. After planning a mutual proposal, together, they celebrated the new relationship status by having engagement photos in the PNW with the snow-capped Mt Baker behind them.
Why they chose to plan a proposal mutually.
We are both terrible at keeping secrets from one another, and we went into a proposal knowing we both wanted to be a part of the ring-choosing process, so it made sense to plan the proposal together.
We are huge fans of Phoebe Bridgers and traveled down to the Bay area from Washington to see her show at the last minute. We’d only spent 36 hours in the city but immediately fell in love with San Francisco, so we knew it would eventually be our proposal spot.
The day of the proposal – the same day Roe v. Wade was overturned.
The morning of our planned engagement, we went to an overpriced, mediocre breakfast spot in the Bay area. A pair came in and sat next to us, and in doing so, their tote bag flew across our table and dumped Tally’s water into her lap and all over her food. As we got over the debacle of a spilled drink everywhere, we looked up at the big screen television in the restaurant just in time to learn that Roe v. Wade had just been overturned.
We stared in disbelief for a long time, and the whole restaurant went quiet.
We chatted about our options—should we postpone it? It felt weird celebrating and posting anything as floods of stories and posts on Instagram began coming in about the decision (and as the reality sunk in).
Inevitably, we decided to go ahead because how could we have possibly planned on this happening? A few people messaged us to say our news was a tiny little glimmer of positivity on an otherwise really depressing day.
Tell us about choosing engagement rings together.
We both wanted unique but timeless rings that took some searching. Tally chose a dainty, feminine ring from Catbird NYC, and Kailee’s androgynous and eclectic ring is from Communion by Joy. We both had specific aesthetics in mind, so we liked that we got to each pick our ring out ourselves! They ended up pairing beautifully together, and I love how they encapsulate us so well.
Deciding to elope.
As we’ve decided to elope, the planning looks a little different than planning for a traditional wedding would be! We are celebrating, however, with family and friends by having a big bridal shower.
Tally is 100% the Type A person in the relationship (the calendar-keeper, opinionated, girl boss). Kailee is the Type B person, ready to go with the flow, provide input when asked, and make sure that Tally’s pink/pastel/floral dreams are well-executed.
We hope for it to be everything that it doesn’t seem to be for other people – something entirely for us. So often weddings are for everyone else. To have a secret moment just to split away together and share these special moments in the quiet feels so uniquely “us.”
We wanted our elopement to be intimate and dreamy, which perfectly defines Natasha’s style. She’s a PNW elopement photographer, and from the moment we met, she saw our vision perfectly, and our engagement photos are evidence of that! Our florist, Darling Dahlia, is also on the ethereal side, and we can’t wait to see what our other vendors create with us.
We are grateful for having a small team to be a part of our day.
Photography by The Cardinals
